WHY HEART BREAK CHANGES PEOPLE ?

 

Most of the time, we don’t give people second chances. We judge them by their actions or our assumptions. You’ll find yourself shunning people out or looking down on them. You should stop doing this.

The person you were ten years ago is not the person you are today. The same applies to other people. Don’t judge people. We all have a past. Some people have the best intention. And they want to change. Leave peoples’ past behind and avoid bringing it up all the time.

                            You share your darkest secrets with people,

Imagine you open up your whole world to someone , your darkest secret, your insecurities , happiest part of your day revolves around telling them what happened through out the day.

                    They occupy the void in your heart. you believe that they are going to stay with you forever.you look forward to life.you have a special place for them in your dream

You think about their happiness,

Their smile becomes your topmost priority.

Until, one day they decide to leave.

You wake up other morning, only to find that forever is just a word. you smile throughout the day, because you think its better to fake a smile than to make someone understand what are you going through.

               You want to call them, but you resist the temptation. you want to do everything to get them back , but you choose to let go at that time of period you must be surrounded by a set of emotions which every time shake you like a wave of ocean. You find yourself drowning and helpless. But, you don’t want to give up. You try hard .

In this journey of emotional breakdown, each time you cry, you learn, you laugh .reality hits you.

                                           Its not heartbreak that change people its breaking of trust that changes them. Their carefree behavior like they did nothing wrong .

 

 

    

On the other hand Change is not easy. It requires a lot of patience, a lot of thought and tons of courage. Not only that, but there are circumstances where people don't realize how to go about changing.

 

                                 It isn't as if we are given a manual in life in how to live it. We are given tools in our families and we use those tools and believe that we have the answers. As we mature, there is a realization that maybe those beliefs aren't quite right for us.

 

Speaking for myself, I started realizing that I didn't know the answers at all, but I thought a lot of other people did. I looked to mirror a lot of people and tried my hardest to be someone other than me. Change essentially and in reality, is coming to the realization that you are who you're supposed to be going where you're supposed to go.

When I figured out that it was OK to be exactly who I am,

 

 it was wonderful.

 

 It was a huge relief.

                   

 At that moment, trying to change turned into learning to be a better me. Which is what we’re really talking about here? 

 

 

 

It's not heartbreak that change people it's breaking of trust that changes them. Their carefree behavior like they did nothing wrong. The person who was always available making excuses like they are busy while they are nothing but having fun with others. You suddenly become so powerless in life like nothing matters to you. You beg, you cry, you plead them to come back. But the same person laughs at your situation. Then you realize actual face of that person. What you love the most is not the person but the image of that person that you created in life. What hurts you the most is sudden change in that person, change in that image that you trusted more than yourself.

You fear to trust anyone ever again. Nights become painful you wish for the pain to just go away. You realize people make Fake promises when it's convenient to them. You realize you're alone and you have to make through it all on your own. You hate the word love but couldn't hate the person that made you this. Your every attempt to make amends with them talk to them made you labelled as needy, and justgives them opportunity to insult you some more.

And one day you walk away. Leaving nothing behind. Knowing you tried your best. Knowing you haven't left even slightest possibility of bringing them back into life. But now you realize what matters more than love is respect and honesty.

You realize -

You might have lost someone who doesn't care about you , but they have lost someone to whom they mean world.

 

 

 

 

If you introspect carefully, you’ll understand that you’re a flower bud waiting to bloom the next morning after a stormy, windy night. Grief shapes our lives in a very different way. Our closed ones also contribute to our mental wellbeing. What are friends for when they can’t crack lame jokes in a tense situation? They always want you to excel and recognise yourself for the fighter you are. If you think you being a ‘fighter’ is exaggerating, then stop and think this: you fought through your mind hurdles alone. After days of immense crying, you went out wearing a smile. Didn’t you fight just now? No fight is ever small or big but your own. There are wars, while there are petty fights too but none are small for themselves.

 Also, never, ever think that crying makes you weak. You’re just letting go of unspoken tears, to stand up and gear up now.

                                                                      

                                                                                                                                                       A person with a broken heart often has episodes of sobbing, rage, and despair. They may not eat or sleep for days and may also neglect their personal hygiene. A few may repress their feelings so that they do not have to face the pain of the loss, which may cause panic, anxiety, and depression a few months later. Some people slip into addictions and rebound relationships to deal with a broken heart!

                                                                                                               Though it may hurt to face your emotions head-on, processing heartbreak in a meaningful way and rising strong in the aftermath is a key to leading a thriving life. As someone rightly said, going through heartbreak can be like surfing. On some days, it will feel like you’re standing up and conquering the waves. On other days, it will feel like the surf is crashing down on you and pushing you underwater. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time, and know that it is up to you to pave the path forward. You are loved! 

Treat this as a learning experience. Breakups hurt. They suck. But they can also make you a stronger, more confident, more compassionate person, if you let them. Look for things you can learn about yourself and your needs. Find who you really are. In a serious relationship, we often become half of the other person instead of a full and unique version of ourselves. This is often why breakups are so hard. But once you’re set free, you can find yourself again. You can spend time doing what you love, unhindered by anyone else’s opinion or constraints. Take some time to figure out what you value and who you want to be.