why PEOPLE HAVE TRUST ISSUES ?

 

Trust is an important and tender aspect of all relationships. When trust is broken, it often becomes harder to put your faith in people in the future. However, trust issues could also hurt you in the long run because they prevent you from connecting with others or receiving support when you need it. When we have learned to doubt someone, it’s usually because we’ve come to understand that what we share with them or what’s important to us is not safe with that person.

Trust is hard to define, but we do know when it’s lost. When that happens, we withdraw our energy and level of engagement. We go on an internal strike, not wanting to be sympathetic to the person who we feel has hurt us or treated us wrongly.

 We pull back from that person and no longer feel part of their world.

This loss of trust can be obvious or somewhat hidden
Perhaps the kindest response to that is to point out that other people are no more trustworthy than you are, mainly because they are constantly changing and are not just one person. But rather lots of different people; some are those people you can trust while they are there, but they will soon be replaced by somebody completely untrustworthy.

Once you become accustomed to all the different people in yourself and in other people also, you won’t really need to go to the cinema.

I know that appears to be a rather weird idea to you. But if you watch yourself carefully and determinedly, you will see that it is perfectly true; each different situation calls up a different guy/girl and sooner or later as you get older you will get to know them. The how s and why ’s of all that is a matter of extensive and complete study, and as you get to be more familiar with yourself as a whole, and realize that you are no different from anyone else, all these things won’t appear to be quite as confusing as they appear to be right now.

If little betrayals teach you valuable lessons in life then thank the man that betrayed you, because he has done you a favor; you can go through your life eyes wide open or eyes tight shut – you choose.

So the short point is that it is generally unwise to expect others to keep a confidence and not betray you, because they don’t have any choice in the matter; would you trust you? – I certainly wouldn’t trust me. If you can ever find somebody that isn’t constantly changeable – and they are one in 100 billion, then by all means trust them if, and only if they have proven to you that they are trustworthy, but if not, be extremely careful with what you trust with others.

Always remember that the road to hell is tiled with good intentions.

It is much wiser to expect people to be worse – which can only mean less likeable, than you would wish them to be; they have good intentions also.

all it is the better part of wisdom to be suspicious and skeptical about human beings; as suspicious and skeptical as you would be about yourself, because that cherished picture of yourself hidden up in your brain somewhere

So have sympathy on others, they have no more choice than you do.

Like it or not it is simply not possible to go through life with your gloves up like a boxer defending himself, because from time to time you simply have to trust some people – for example the bus driver of the bus in which you are travelling, or a pilot, or whoever is driving whatever car in which you find yourself. But with matters personal and rather cherished never trust a living soul. That’s just common sense isn’t it?

 

                    

 

 Your life and experiences are different from mine. I have a lot of people I trust and who trust me. There were times when I found later on I couldn’t trust some people but…the difference is this…

I don’t see the world the way I want to see it but accept it for how it is.

In other words, I accept some people will disappoint me, they’ll be dishonest, they’ll wear mask but what I can do is to be honest with myself and in how I deal with people.

That is all I have control of and nothing else.

So my expectations with people aren’t high. The person has to rise up to create these moments in consistent actions and behavior.

Most of the time, I feel people can see the red flags but what happens is they don’t want to see them due to their need for validation, acceptance or something else. Sometimes the ego gets in the way.