should we trust someone in life ?

                  Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it ❤

 

Trust is an important and tender aspect of all relationships. When trust is broken, it often becomes harder to put your faith in people in the future. However, trust issues could also hurt you in the long run because they prevent you from connecting with others or receiving support when you need it. When we have learned to doubt someone, it’s usually because we’ve come to understand that what we share with them or what’s important to us is not safe with that person.

Trust is hard to define, but we do know when it’s lost. When that happens, we withdraw our energy and level of engagement. We go on an internal strike, not wanting to be sympathetic to the person who we feel has hurt us or treated us wrongly.

 We pull back from that person and no longer feel part of their world.

This loss of trust can be obvious or somewhat hidden
Perhaps the kindest response to that is to point out that other people are no more trustworthy than you are, mainly because they are constantly changing and are not just one person. But rather lots of different people; some are those people you can trust while they are there, but they will soon be replaced by somebody completely untrustworthy.

Once you become accustomed to all the different people in yourself and in other people also, you won’t really need to go to the cinema.

I know that appears to be a rather weird idea to you. But if you watch yourself carefully and determinedly, you will see that it is perfectly true; each different situation calls up a different guy/girl and sooner or later as you get older you will get to know them. The how s and why ’s of all that is a matter of extensive and complete study, and as you get to be more familiar with yourself as a whole, and realize that you are no different from anyone else, all these things won’t appear to be quite as confusing as they appear to be right now.

If little betrayals teach you valuable lessons in life then thank the man that betrayed you, because he has done you a favor; you can go through your life eyes wide open or eyes tight shut – you choose.

So the short point is that it is generally unwise to expect others to keep a confidence and not betray you, because they don’t have any choice in the matter; would you trust you? – I certainly wouldn’t trust me. If you can ever find somebody that isn’t constantly changeable – and they are one in 100 billion, then by all means trust them if, and only if they have proven to you that they are trustworthy, but if not, be extremely careful with what you trust with others.

Always remember that the road to hell is tiled with good intentions.

It is much wiser to expect people to be worse – which can only mean less likeable, than you would wish them to be; they have good intentions also.

all it is the better part of wisdom to be suspicious and skeptical about human beings; as suspicious and skeptical as you would be about yourself, because that cherished picture of yourself hidden up in your brain somewhere

So have sympathy on others, they have no more choice than you do.

Like it or not it is simply not possible to go through life with your gloves up like a boxer defending himself, because from time to time you simply have to trust some people – for example the bus driver of the bus in which you are travelling, or a pilot, or whoever is driving whatever car in which you find yourself. But with matters personal and rather cherished never trust a living soul. That’s just common sense isn’t it?

 

                    

 

 Your life and experiences are different from mine. I have a lot of people I trust and who trust me. There were times when I found later on I couldn’t trust some people but…the difference is this…

I don’t see the world the way I want to see it but accept it for how it is.

In other words, I accept some people will disappoint me, they’ll be dishonest, they’ll wear mask but what I can do is to be honest with myself and in how I deal with people.

That is all I have control of and nothing else.

So my expectations with people aren’t high. The person has to rise up to create these moments in consistent actions and behavior.

Most of the time, I feel people can see the red flags but what happens is they don’t want to see them due to their need for validation, acceptance or something else. Sometimes the ego gets in the way.

If I don’t trust then how do I expect anyone to trust me?

I know, 100% I won’t let someone down intentionally and if I do, I will apologies with deep sincerity because the last thing I ever want to do in this life is hurt someone. I know how it feels and I don’t want someone feeling that because of me, and I hope people who know me, will always let me know, so I have the chance to grow, learn, be a better human being and a lover, or a friend, or a business associate.

You see, I cannot live my life expecting the worse of people because I can’t. It’s not me. I can’t live my life thinking of loss of abundance or lack of abundance, and instead I see abundance and I do so naturally as its part of my thinking now and I behave this way.

I behave that I am valuable and who breaks that trust is the one who loses the most. I give more but I don’t give to want something back like it’s some craving in which I rely on for validation. Rather I give to pleasure, to serve, to enrich and well, if someone fucks that up, it is their loss not mine.

I see the good in people until they screw up but I also give room for empathy, change, and understanding and to build on.

Because…

 

There is something going on at a deep level that gets a person to build connections with people to be at a point, in which one gets really hurt deep inside to feel that they cannot trust anyone in his world.

I can only speak for myself in saying…

I see way back in past of many such incidents in where some broke my trust but I also needed to take responsibility that some of it was also my own doing. I was very naive back then, very young and I did things sometimes for the wrong reasons.

I didn’t know what is important to me, what my values are, what my desires are, what my boundaries are and was in the realm or mindset of fearing loss.

When we live in that plane then we can easily be blinded by avoiding seeing the red flags that seem so quite, so hidden and yet if we truly observe, we will hear and see these red flags like thunder and lighting.

Sometimes it is our own way of doing.

Like it happens long before, we meet the people to build connections and relationships. It is the perception of the person, how they see themselves, the world, and in seeking some meaning.

Doing so, the person doesn’t behave in a manner to have an opinion and so one’s own values are not shared to whoever they meet due to fear of not being accepted and validated.

So way back, I knew I had a lot of work to do within myself and I worked at it. That doesn’t mean I still don’t find people break the trust but I minimize negative emotional impact it has on me.

I have far more people who I trust, who have always been consistent as I have with them. I minimized it by working on myself.

It is an understanding of one-self in which he doesn’t react to the world but responds in having the wisdom, knowledge, skills, emotional intelligence as well being self aware on why he or she builds relationships with so, so. Also the expectations one has in their mind about someone.

Yes, you will get disappointed by people but what then is your expectations on people you trust?

What boundaries do you have?

Do you stand up to your boundaries?

Have you explained these boundaries?

How long did you get to know someone, their values, and see who they associate with?

What is the line in which one crosses and how you communicate when it happens, and how do you grow from it with empathy, understanding and the wisdom?

How do you minimize the psychological and emotional negative impact on you?

The world isn’t predictable.

People want to make it predictable.

So yes, I do trust some people in my life because I don’t want to live life in fear, in not taking risks, in not embracing the adventure, the opportunity to know someone new. I give that moment a chance and if it works, it works.

If it doesn’t, it will bring me more lessons about myself. It be difficult. I’m sure it be harder but I believe it is for that reason, that resilience, that insight that has helped me attract wonderful people, women as lovers, to professionals for work and connections that are rich with meaning.

 

                       

                      GOD IS STILL WRITING YOUR

                           STORY, QUIT TRYING

                         TO STEAL THE PEN. TRUST

                                 THE AUTHOR.

 

-UNKNOWN