WHY PEOPLE BREAK TRUST ?

TRUST ISSUES 

 

I know, 100% I won’t let someone down intentionally and if I do, I will apologies with deep sincerity because the last thing I ever want to do in this life is hurt someone. I know how it feels and I don’t want someone feeling that because of me, and I hope people who know me, will always let me know, so I have the chance to grow, learn, be a better human being and a lover, or a friend, or a business associate.

You see, I cannot live my life expecting the worse of people because I can’t. It’s not me. I can’t live my life thinking of loss of abundance or lack of abundance, and instead I see abundance and I do so naturally as its part of my thinking now and I behave this way.

I behave that I am valuable and who breaks that trust is the one who loses the most. I give more but I don’t give to want something back like it’s some craving in which I rely on for validation. Rather I give to pleasure, to serve, to enrich and well, if someone fucks that up, it is their loss not mine.

I see the good in people until they screw up but I also give room for empathy, change, and understanding and to build on.

Because…

 

There is something going on at a deep level that gets a person to build connections with people to be at a point, in which one gets really hurt deep inside to feel that they cannot trust anyone in his world.

I can only speak for myself in saying…

I see way back in past of many such incidents in where some broke my trust but I also needed to take responsibility that some of it was also my own doing. I was very naive back then, very young and I did things sometimes for the wrong reasons.

I didn’t know what is important to me, what my values are, what my desires are, what my boundaries are and was in the realm or mindset of fearing loss.

When we live in that plane then we can easily be blinded by avoiding seeing the red flags that seem so quite, so hidden and yet if we truly observe, we will hear and see these red flags like thunder and lighting.

Sometimes it is our own way of doing.

Like it happens long before, we meet the people to build connections and relationships. It is the perception of the person, how they see themselves, the world, and in seeking some meaning.

Doing so, the person doesn’t behave in a manner to have an opinion and so one’s own values are not shared to whoever they meet due to fear of not being accepted and validated.

So way back, I knew I had a lot of work to do within myself and I worked at it. That doesn’t mean I still don’t find people break the trust but I minimize negative emotional impact it has on me.

I have far more people who I trust, who have always been consistent as I have with them. I minimized it by working on myself.

It is an understanding of one-self in which he doesn’t react to the world but responds in having the wisdom, knowledge, skills, emotional intelligence as well being self aware on why he or she builds relationships with so, so. Also the expectations one has in their mind about someone.

Yes, you will get disappointed by people but what then is your expectations on people you trust?

What boundaries do you have?

Do you stand up to your boundaries?

Have you explained these boundaries?

How long did you get to know someone, their values, and see who they associate with?

What is the line in which one crosses and how you communicate when it happens, and how do you grow from it with empathy, understanding and the wisdom?

How do you minimize the psychological and emotional negative impact on you?

The world isn’t predictable.

People want to make it predictable.

So yes, I do trust some people in my life because I don’t want to live life in fear, in not taking risks, in not embracing the adventure, the opportunity to know someone new. I give that moment a chance and if it works, it works.

If it doesn’t, it will bring me more lessons about myself. It be difficult. I’m sure it be harder but I believe it is for that reason, that resilience, that insight that has helped me attract wonderful people, women as lovers, to professionals for work and connections that are rich with meaning.

 

                       

                      GOD IS STILL WRITING YOUR

                           STORY, QUIT TRYING

                         TO STEAL THE PEN. TRUST

                                 THE AUTHOR.

 

-UNKNOWN