WHAT IS MATURITY ?

 GROWING UP SUCKS  

 

isn't   the time when we wake up ?❤

                                   

Maturity can be learned rather than acquired. It is a discipline rather than a trait. It is a sign of intelligence when you learn to respond to your environment in a mature and responsible manner.

A mature person knows when to stop arguing. She understands that trying to win arguments with those you love is self-defeating. She respects others’ points of view but goes by her own considered ones. She knows that the journey is to be enjoyed and lived, while the destination is just another place to reach, rest awhile and then move on. She does not indulge in comparisons and is at peace with herself.

A mature person will take responsibility for his own actions rather than blame others. He will take a far-sighted view of things and act in a considered, rather than a spontaneous manner. He understands that he is not the center of the Universe, and most people do not act to hurt, upset or take revenge on him; they have their own considerations and triggers. He is non-judgmental and learns to accept people as they are and brings change only within himself.

I read a beautiful line  – “Emotional maturity means being centered in yourself instead of being self-centered.” The author Katies Hoban, a data scientist, speaks of three Rs – Responsibility, Responsiveness and Resilience. So, drawing from the power and resources within yourself, maturity is the art of being responsible for your actions, being sensitive and considerate towards others and having the ability to change and adapt to circumstances

                                                                                              i’m sure most people have been told the following on at least one occasion: “you’re too young to understand,”

 “you won’t understand until you’re older,”

 “the adults are talking.”

                                  Those words have a way of making people feel small and insignificant, especially when said by someone older and of higher authority. Often believing that just because someone is younger, they won’t be able to understand or handle adult situations. In reality, age doesn’t determine how mature a person is, it’s their personal experiences that determine their maturity level.  It is not when we start speaking big things, but rather when we start understanding small things. You may not be able to control the situation, but you can always control your attitude, and how you deal with it, that’s when maturity and being responsible occur.

                                                Our immaturity sometimes makes us feel guilty, and we often try to counteract it however we can; it has to do with our vulnerability, with the more childlike parts of ourselves, the places where we’re needier and more irresponsible. Our immature parts feed themselves on the things that we haven’t managed to overcome or that we haven’t learned to tolerate, and sometimes, our immaturity makes us behave in sub optimal ways.

 

Growing up straight up SUCKS! As children we all couldn’t wait to grow up, but once we do all we wish for is the get those childhood days back. Being an Adult is quite the task. You have to be professional, responsible, and a good example in society’s eyes. But fuck that. There is literally no harm in being a child again, and it’s totally okay to be childish even as an adult. Why?

                                                You don’t have to give a damn what others think. People will always find something to judge about you because they themselves are insecure. Instead, you be you and if that involves being childish then it’s totally a-okay. So go ahead, be whatever you want.

As kids, we all were completely worry-free. And when one is in such a state of mind their worldview and priorities lie completely elsewhere. We didn’t care if we had homework due tomorrow; we stayed out for that “last over”. As grownups we really get worked up on such little things that sometimes being childish is a savior.

                                                     I'm not saying you should completely revert to a kid again. If you remember we were quite stupid back then.

The only maturity you must have with growing age is EMOTIONAL MATURITY; an emotionally mature individual gives off a sense of “calm amid the storm.” They’re the ones we look to when going through a difficult time because they perform well under stress

    

 

      MATURITY IS ONLY A SHORT BREAK IN ADOLESCENCE

  - JULES FEIFFER